Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Faded


Valentines from a beloved husband and father.
Tucked away, tied up with ribbons,
and discovered again last evening.
Lovely and painful and confusing.
Wondering what to do.


Realizing I wanted my adult children to know and see
the passion and love their parents once had and that
they were birthed from this love.
That time and circumstance faded that love
but did not remove it permanently from time.
It is shelved somewhere in memory, as these
remain shelved and tucked away,
with pretty fading ribbons.
But that love..remains...always.

34 comments:

Bead and Needle said...

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh - this is so lovely, Z, really!

Happy Tuesday (I'm behind by a few!) XOXO

www.MaisonStGermain.com said...

Why not give it to the kids?
~Debra xxx
Capers of the vintage vixens

Jacqueline said...

Important to keep...you don't have to look at them...unless you really want to!

Theanne said...

I agree with your feeling...one of the good things about going through my parents "things" before I moved to Florida...was discovering the love letters my father wrote my mother! If anyone had asked me as a child I'd have said my parent's didn't share much love...no hugging, no little love pecks, no hand holding, not much of anything in the way of visible love sharing. It was nice to know how much he loved her...interestingly enough I didn't find her love letters to him?!!!

Robin Larkspur said...

A beautiful post, Z. Thanks for sharing.

Terra said...

Oh to be birthed from love. These cards are beautiful.

April said...

What a remarkable treasure and a testiment of true love!

Candylei said...

That is wonderful that you kept them!! Keep the good memories alive. ;-) they are really sweet!

The Boston Lady said...

I think this is a wonderful to share with the kids. Our parents' relationship is endlessly fascinating no matter our age or the state of said relationship. Ann

Kathy said...

I think you should write a little love note to your children about them then just tuck them away in the bottom of a drawer for them to find someday.

Cindy said...

lovely post...<3

MEM said...

Bittersweet sentiments. someday your kids may wish to have them and in the meantime you are the keeper of the memories. I have also shown pictures of valentines on my blog, but of a different era holding different sentiments. Look ahead to what is yet to come!

miss flibbertigibbet said...

How sweet and precious. None of us can ever know what goes on between husbands and wives...many people aren't as comfortable with big gushy displays (like me) but that doesn't mean the love isn't there. Seeing these things brings back memories but makes us realize sometimes that all is not as it seems always...bittersweet...
Lorraine

Jacqueline @ HOME said...

What a beautiful post Z and so lovely that you feel that way. I really hope that you keep them.
Both my mum and dad are gone now and, we found hundreds of letters from my dad to my mum and from my mum to my dad when he was away in the war. My mum wrote to him every day and my dad as often as the war allowed and,like Theanne, my parents were not outwardly demonstrative, but those letters were so loving. Their circumstances were different as they stayed together but, your cards and letters were very real at the time and an important part of yours and your childrens past.
A beautiful post especially at this time of year. XXXX

joanne said...

I think your children deserve to know the passion and memories that were once part of who they are. Beautifully written post, z, I can feel your heart in every word.

Susan said...

So hard to find them, I have been so there! I kept stuff, but most of it I threw away when the time was right. If you are still wondering,whether to throw away or not, you aren't ready. I agree some should be kept for the children, though mine could care less now that they are grown with their own families.

time worn interiors said...

What a sweet thought for the kiddos!

Hope you all well now!

tot

Theresa said...

I am in awe, truly. I think I would have thrown them away long ago and yet you knew that your kids would need to see them. Thank you for the life lesson is selflessness today.
Your life sounds pretty crazy right now, new roomy, new job,so much happening right now! Good luck with all of it!
So glad that you are feeling better!
t.xoxoxoox

Linda @ A La Carte said...

This touched me! I too have a 'father of my children' I want my girls to know that we loved each other very much once. they came from love for sure.

Linda said...

Oh...such a sweet post...I have saved every card my husband and children have ever given me...and I found his stash one day too! Thise are things we can never give up...thanks for sharing and enjoy the day!!

Carole said...

I know how hard it must be to see these again. Painful yet joyous that you once loved that way. I'm sure your kids would want to keep them.

hugs
Carole

Jill said...

I'm glad you have these.

A Cottage Muse said...

I am sure they will be so touched to know you kept all these pieces and I am sure they will love to be able to look at them too.

How's your new roomie?

Pooch Purple Reign said...

aww, so cute and romantic
~laura xx

Low Tide High Style said...

It's important to remember our past, and for your children to know that past...the good, the bad, and even the ugly. I think it's wonderful that you've kept these mementos!

Kat

June said...

You had to go and make me cry tonight Z.
I kind of know what this is like because I am keeping things for my daughter from her first husband so the kids will have them later in life and she doesn't want her current husband to have to see them, so I keep them tucked in a box in my closet for when the four grands are old enough to take care of them. Some things are to sacred to get rid of.
love from me...

Jillayne said...

Gone but not forgotten...funny how we can remember how we felt but we just can't feel that way anymore.
I think it's a hard thing for a child to know that the two people who are supposed to care the most for them can't stand each other, and I very much admire parents who set their own feelings aside in order to let their children understand that once they loved each other.
It's even more remarkable when you are able to do it and you haven't set aside your own feelings at all - when you still believe there was something there and it was a good thing. Hard to do sometimes, but I think it shows a belief in love that is a great and true legacy.
This is one the best blog posts I've ever read z. I love it.
jillayne

erin said...

i am a sentimental person and i think it is sweet that you have saved these for the kids and perhaps for yourself as well. i am glad to read you are finally on the mend from the crud and i had to laugh at your post about your new roomie...my nephew moved in with us 6 weeks ago and my biggest beef is not being able to go braless when he is around!! he and his wife have seperated and he sadly has no where to go...the sadest part is they have small children....whom i am sure are suffering....like your kids, it will be comforting for them to know that thier parents were in love at one time.
erin
xxoo

Anne said...

FABULOUS!
Just found your lovely blog...and am your newest follower!
Best,
Anne
www.alittlefurinthepaint.blogspot.com

Zuzu said...

After my mom passed away last summer, my dad pulled out a stack of letters that Mom had written to him to share with me - they had been married for 67 years. As a kid I had no idea how very much they loved each other, because life was so busy back then. But seeing the little cards and letters she wrote to him over the years was a gift to see - as I am sure these will be for your kids.
You are a great mom, z.
Hugs,
Zuzu a.k.a. the other Z.

Anonymous said...

I like that you can honor the love that once was

Romeo said...

Oh those are beautiful! But I am wondering....did your Dad paint that card? It is sooooo beautiful! I love watercolors but am not so good with them. This card however.....wow!

I am glad you have saved these cards. Your kids will appreciate this - you have raised them to value sentiment I am certain. Tuck them back away.

Hugs,

"Her" and Romeo

TheCrankyCrow said...

Awwww....another side of the dear Z I've come to love, respect and admire. What a bittersweet and beautiful post. As much as time and changes can distance us, I always try to remember that my husband is and always will be my son's father - I loved him then, and he is part of who HE is, so I love that still. Yes, I have have been away from your blog too long....I need to feed on your wisdom more frequently....Robin

Susanne said...

Beautifully said and good for your kids to know.
Susanne.